I demand empathy on this one folks.
Tonight I was at party. It was meant to be a barbecue, but weather did not permit, so it became a party. As with other parties, on this occasion, I made it my duty to make a round of the guests, converse a little, introduce them to other guests, and generally maintain the lubrication. In fact, I know this was why the host invited me- its what I do.
The host decided that, since a barbecue was no longer possible, he would just call in pizza. I knew this was likely. I know the host maybe a little too well. I had prepared. I made sure today I did a gruelling series of circuits. And my lunch was light, so I could indulge tonight, no matter what was on offer.
Anyway, the pizzas arrives not long after, and I, wanting the party to be a success for my friend, offered to split the cost. And then I got back to the task in hand, namely, getting everyone a drink, letting them know that food had arrived, ensuring their comfort. Finally I tuck into a slice, only to hear another guest comment that she couldn't believe that I was still eating.
I was halfway through my first slice of pizza.
Unfortunately, I let her comment get to me. My night was ruined. I may be technically obese, but I really don't like being made to feel like I'm fat.
I took the host aside to tell him what had happened. He shrugged. I lost my temper, and, in the best passive aggressive style, left as soon as I could. And, to aid my passive aggressiveness further, now I'm posting about it.
It still doesn't make the hurt less.
And I'm still hungry.
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You poor dear! Today I went to the hair salon and someone said to me "you actually have a pretty face...I mean, you just need to lose weight"...it totally ruined my haircut
Oh my god! No wonder you lost your temper, that sort of comment would've had my blood pressure skyrocketing.
You have our empathy, no need to demand it from us - that comment was totally out of order, and I can't believe that the host shrugged off what she said. Especially since you'd worked so hard in getting everyone talking and offering to split the cost!
You were dignified in leaving as soon as possible. And are dignified in writing about it here. The last time someone made a stupid comment about my weight, I swore at them. Loudly. In a room full of people.
Big hugs, buddy.
I just discovered your blog. You did the right thing leaving. Sometimes I wonder why people feel the need to comment on what someone else is eating.
Sometimes people just suck. We've all been there buddy.
Wow, what a bitch.
Like they expect you to never eat ANYTHING ever again if you are on a weight loss mission? Huh?!
I was also supposed to be at a BBQ last night but due to the rain I never got there -- I spent 40 mins in the rain waiting for a bus and eventually gave up and sloped back home, sending my friend an apologetic text.
Darned British weather !!!
You handled the situation a lot better than that rude bitch deserved.
Definitely not worth making a scene, maybe you could have quietly told her to her face, with a smile on your face, that it was none of her f%^&ing business what you eat.
"And I can't believe you're still breathing" would have been my preferred response.
I am also enormously sensitive about this kinda thing and having people comment in any way at all on what I'm eating sends me through the roof. I can absolutely understand your rage! What a thoughtless idiot.
You did well to leave before things got any worse. It's her problem though, not yours, that's the (sometimes difficult, but no less true) thing to remember.
TA x
I'm delurking long enough to say that the mere fact that you didn't shove your slice of pizza into that person's face is evidence that you are, in fact, a saint. I'm not at all religious, but I do believe a bit in karma and the old adage of what goes around comes around. That said, that b*tch will get what she deserves. In the meantime, you've got some serious empathy from me, and lots of others folks out there who think you rock.
*shakes head*
here's hoping your hunger was satiated in a way by the writing of this post.
the emotional piece.
Id have departed as well.
Miz.
People that make blanket judgement statements like that really get under my skin! Plus she was obviously a bitch! Glad you left the party! HUGS
Mate, I don't blame you. I don't know what I would have done, but I doubt I would have been as restrained :D So I think you handled it pretty well.
That's seriously rude. People should just not talk sometimes (most times really!)
Wow. What an insufferable woman!
You may have left the party early but it sounds like you didn't miss much.
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